november 30, 2017

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“If the hurt comes, so will the happiness. Be patient.” ~ Lieza


just so long for now


A photo of the photo will have to do for now. You met Rick Hayes way back in 2012 when I was in DC. We grew up like siblings, and we’ve remained close our entire lives even though we rarely get to see one another. Ricky has been ill off and on for several years, and in August of this year he got really sick. His friend, also named Rick whom I also adore, has been keeping me updated. Last week, we thought Ricky was making significant progress when he came off the ventilator and feeding tube. The next day, however, he went into cardiac arrest. Though the doctors brought him back, he remained in a coma. Test results have shown that he is essentially gone and now decisions must be made. Rick whom I also adore called me tonight so I could say goodbye to Ricky (speaker phone held to his ear). I did okay until I said I’ll see you on the other side, and you be sure to be there to greet me. I haven’t stopped crying since. I will eventually stop crying because, if Ricky was here in person, he would crack some joke about my ugly crying face or snot running out my nose. Either one would make me laugh, and I would indeed stop crying. He gave me so much joy in this life that I’m too grateful to be sad for long. But for now, my little sister heart is deeply hurt as I wait for that final call from Rick whom I also adore.  

november 29, 2017

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“It is possible to choose peace over worry.” ~ Unknown




If you haven’t figured it out by now, I have a pretty big family. Yesterday I said my Aunt Virginia’s oldest, Ann, brought her to the Saturday festivities. This is Ann (standing) with Uncle Phillip and Aunt Linda’s daughters, Renee (lf) and Jessica (rt). You first met Ann back in 2015 when her brother Richard got married. She was named after our great-grandmother Elizabeth Jones Terry (1890-1938) who died in 1938 just before her dad Greg was born. Ann and her husband Danny have two grown sons, Austin and Dylan. Austin just got married, so now we wait for the next generation to begin. If they’re anything like their Mamaw Ann, they’ll be gooduns! 

november 28, 2017

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“Make your life a masterpiece; imagine no limitations on what you can be, have, or do.” ~ Brian Tracy


Aunt Virginia


Meet Aunt Virginia. Her oldest, Ann, brought her to the Cowboy Chili and Soup shindig last Saturday. I didn’t know she was coming. I’d been thinking about her over the holiday at Lois’, partly because it was her first without Uncle Greg, but mostly because I just couldn’t shake the feeling that we were incomplete without she and Greg. Only when I saw her did I feel like our Thanksgiving was complete. It was joyous. We were all thrilled to have her with us. Transitions are difficult to navigate, and big transitions after losing a loved one are especially challenging. I was grateful to Virginia for making the trip (and Ann and her husband Danny for bringing her). It meant a lot to me, and I know it did to dad, too. 


when listening intently

november 27, 2017

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“The secret to living well and longer is: eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure.”
~ Tibetan Proverb




There’s something about JC that dad is instinctively drawn to. I don’t know if it’s his laugh, his all-boy ways, his sweet smile, or what, but when dad sees JC there’s no one else in the room. Last Saturday, we gathered at Tony and Charlene’s for what I call Thanksgiving Part 2 (Uncle Tony called it Cowboy Chili and Soup). More of the family was there than formal Thanksgiving, and that’s a pretty good achievement. The kids had two acres to run around on in stunningly perfect weather, but JC took time out of his heavy play date to hug his buddy, Shorty. The two of them together warm my heart. 



november 26, 2017

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“It’s not happiness that makes us grateful; it’s gratefulness that makes us happy.”
~ Brother David Steindl-Rast


gratitude with a rake


Dad is very proud of my yard. When he’s here he spends his free time raking it. It’s something he can do to feel useful, and useful he is. I have 11 trees and all but one shed their leaves in the fall. They make my yard is a big job in fall. This year I had the best help anyone could ask for. Dad and I took advantage of the beautiful weather and raked the whole yard, depositing 14 lawn bags at the curb along with a mound of leaves for the city to suck up with their giant sucking machine. When we finished he said, “You’re going to get citizen of the year for this yard.” He was so proud of the work we’d done, and he spent the rest of the day talking about it. I couldn’t have asked for a better dad. 

november 25, 2017

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“I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade… And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.” ~ Ron White


Happy Chihulmas


I’d been waiting months to see the Chihuly exhibit at Maker’s Mark Distillery with Marcie Christensen and Annie Bassoni. Our night finally arrived, and off we went into an absolutely beautiful, albeit chilly, evening. You might recall that I’d seen the exhibit last month, but that just meant I could be their tour guide tonight. It also meant I could be a bit more prepared for photos since I knew what to expect. And, as a bonus, the distillery had decorated for Christmas. Very pretty.




As Marcie pointed out, photographs of Chihuly’s work don’t do it justice – none of it. Doesn’t matter what piece it is. I’ve yet to see a photo that’s even close to the experience of actually standing before a piece. The wow factor defies description. The work is so intricate and fluid that no two elements, no two angles look the same. There’s always something new to discover. I thoroughly enjoyed watching Marcie and Annie take it all in. I imagine I looked very similar when I first saw the exhibit.


always look up


On top of all this, during our ride to Loretto (where Maker’s Mark is located), we had great conversations about spirituality and books and travel. Marcie told us all about her upcoming trips. She’s leaving soon for Africa, then Hawaii, then Scotland with a little Texas and California thrown in for domestic pleasure. Annie and I, and her many other friends, will live vicariously though her travel adventures, but one thing’s for sure: we three won’t be forgetting Chihuly night at Maker’s Mark anytime soon. This was a gift!

november 24, 2017

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“The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.” ~ Paul Valery


ram on


Every once in a while Stacy and I go to Shakertown after Thanksgiving. Today was just such an occasion, and we couldn’t have asked for a more perfect day. The crisp air was just right. The sun was warm, and the clouds provided the perfect decoration. We had a long, delicious lunch followed by hours of rambling about the village grounds visiting with the animals. This ram made a line for me from across the paddock. I thought he was going to smack the fence where I was standing, but instead he very gently presented his head to me. For the longest time he stood as still as a tree while I rubbed his nose and face, and he didn’t shy away from the camera at all. I mean, look at his smile! Stacy and I had a great day of furry friends, food, and fresh air. Just what the doctor ordered.



november 23, 2017

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“Continue to choose hope over despair, love over hatred, and action over apathy — every single time.”
~ Kamala Harris




Soon after we returned home from Thanksgiving dinner at Aunt Lois’, dad turned to me and said, “That was a wonderful day with the family.” “Yes, it was,” I replied. “It was the best Thanksgiving since Mamaw and Papaw died.” (they died 10 days apart in April 2009) “I believe you’re right,” he confirmed. Thirty of us invaded Lois’ house. Everyone brought something to eat. We exchanged $5 gifts with one another. We laughed a lot. It was truly a wonderful day. Mission accomplished.





november 22, 2017

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“Your happiness isn’t dependent on where you live, how much you weigh, or what you do for work. The key to happiness is appreciating what you have at this moment.” ~ Jessica Blanchard


history halls (snapseed)


Young Library has a nice exhibit of photos lining the entrance walls. They depict student protests from 1960 to the present. I was struck by the majority of photos depicting protests just in the last 10-15 years. Struck by the variety of issues being addressed, but more impressed by the fact that so many students took enough interest in the respective issue to do something about it. Protesting, peacefully in particular, is a hallmark of democracy. Besides exercising our rights at the ballot box, it is one of the most significant ways people can make a substantial difference in government, locally and nationally. The student protester’s willingness to publicly support their views gives me hope that these same students will one day be in positions of power, and use those powers for the greater good. 

november 21, 2017

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“Don’t lower your standards to fit in. Don’t shrink who you are to make other people comfortable.”
~ Unknown


sweet soul (snapseed)


I saw Charlotte Webb for a hair cut, but for the first time since I’ve known her, and the first time in my life, I also had a facial. Charlotte specializes in facials, but when we met 25+ years ago she was strictly doing hair. A severe allergy to color forced her to change direction, but my lack of self-pampering didn’t follow, though she did continue to cut my hair. After the stress of flying last week, followed by more stress when I got home, I decided I needed some self care. I called Charlotte, and for more than three hours tonight we talked and laughed and pampered. Shoot, my hands even got the paraffin treatment. I simply adore Charlotte, and this evening of spa fun was just what the doctor ordered. I’m ready for the holidaze now!

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